“It’s Not Fair!” – Promoting Positive Behaviour in Early Years

As an early years professional, you nurture children’s growth and development daily. But when challenging behaviours arise, many practitioners feel uncertain about how to respond effectively:

The reality: Between 7-25% of preschool children exhibit challenging behaviours that impact their development. According to the UK Department for Education, 97% of teachers have encountered challenging behaviour in their classrooms, and behaviour management consistently ranks among the top three sources of stress for early years professionals. One-third of practitioners identify behaviour management as an area where they need additional training.

This isn’t an occasional challenge—it’s a fundamental skill you need every single day.

“It’s Not Fair!” – Promoting Positive Behaviour in Early Years is a focused professional development course that equips you with practical, developmentally appropriate strategies to support children’s emotional development and positive behaviour. Through evidence-based content delivered by early years expert Tamsin Grimmer, you’ll gain:

• Decode what challenging behaviours are really telling you
• Recognize the “behaviour iceberg” – what’s happening beneath the surface
• Identify the many reasons children behave the way they do
• Learn to see the world through children’s eyes

• Understand what happens in children’s brains during stress and conflicts
• Discover why young children appear emotionally dysregulated more often
• Learn the critical difference between the “upstairs” and “downstairs” brain
• Develop effective co-regulation techniques that teach lifelong skills

• Master the ages and stages of sharing and prosocial behaviour development
• Understand when and how Theory of Mind and empathy develop
• Set realistic expectations based on developmental capabilities
• Move beyond compliance to nurturing self-regulation

• Implement effective techniques to calm rather than intensify challenging situations
• Use “I” statements and body language that removes blame
• Create safe spaces and calming activities for emotional regulation
• Respond mindfully instead of reacting emotionally

• Transform conflicts into learning opportunities with the 6-step approach
• Master emotion coaching techniques for immediate application
• Help children recognize, name, and manage their emotions
• Build children’s capacity to resolve conflicts independently

If you’ve already got Tamsin’s “Behaviour Detectives” masterclass this is the perfect compabion. While “Behaviour Detectives” provides the theoretical framework and analytical approach to understanding behaviour, “It’s Not Fair!” delivers the practical day-to-day strategies you need. This course focuses specifically on:

• Sharing and prosocial behaviour development (not covered in Behaviour Detectives)
• Practical problem-solving techniques using the 6-step approach
• Detailed exploration of emotion coaching for immediate application
• Hands-on activities to develop your own behaviour support toolbox

Meet Your Course Instructor: Tamsin Grimmer

Tamsin Grimmer is a respected early years consultant, author and trainer specialising in supporting children’s emotional wellbeing. Her approach combines evidence-based practice with practical strategies you can implement immediately.

As a lecturer at the world-renowned Norland College and Education Director of Linden Learning, Tamsin combines academic expertise with hands-on experience to deliver practical, actionable strategies for early years professionals.

Tamsin’s professional background includes

This comprehensive course features 70 minutes of expert-led video instruction structured through six focused modules, plus reflection activities to build your confidence and competence in promoting positive behaviour:

• Beyond “naughty” labels — discover the many reasons why children behave the way they do
• Learning to behave — recognize how behaviour development parallels other developmental skills
• Shifting perspectives — understand the difference between seeking compliance versus nurturing self-regulation
• Developmental foundations — grasp how behaviour connects to long-term social-emotional development

• Brain science simplified — understand what happens in children’s brains during stress and conflicts
• De-escalation techniques — practical strategies to calm rather than intensify challenging situations
• Power of language — using “I” statements and removing blame from interactions
• Calming strategies toolkit — over 12 practical techniques to help children regulate emotions

• The detective approach — develop skills to decipher what children’s behaviours are really telling you
• The behaviour iceberg — learn to look beneath surface behaviours to identify underlying needs
• Perspective-taking — seeing the world through children’s eyes to understand their priorities
• Unmet needs framework — identify what children are truly seeking through challenging behaviours

• Developmental realities — pinpoint exactly when children develop capabilities for sharing
• The ownership timeline — understand the progression of “mine” to genuine sharing
• Theory of Mind unveiled — recognize the cognitive shifts that enable true empathy
• Problem-solving approach — transform conflicts into learning opportunities using a 6-step strategy

• Adult strategies — practical techniques for promoting positive behaviours through your own actions
• Environment setup — design choices that naturally encourage positive interactions
• Children’s skills — teachable techniques for self-regulation and emotional management
• Three-part approach — strategies for adults, environment modifications, and skills to teach children

• Practical application — implementing the behaviour detective approach with real-life challenges
• Strategy matching — selecting the right tools for specific behaviours and unmet needs
• Reflection framework — evaluating your current responses and planning more effective approaches

Q: How long do I have access to the course materials?
A: You have unlimited lifetime access to all course content, allowing you to revisit the materials whenever needed.

Q: Can I pause and resume the course as needed?
A: Yes! The course is designed for busy early years professionals. You can pause, rewind, and revisit sections as often as you like.

Q: Do I need any special materials or equipment?
A: Just a notebook and pen for the reflection activities. The course is accessible on any device with internet access.

Q: I’ve already taken “Behaviour Detectives.” Should I take this course too?
A: Absolutely! The two courses are designed to complement each other perfectly. “Behaviour Detectives” helps you understand and analyze the root causes of behaviour, while “It’s Not Fair!” provides you with the practical strategies and tools to respond effectively in the moment. Together, they form a comprehensive approach to positive behaviour support. This course has unique content focused on sharing, prosocial behaviour, and the practical application of emotion coaching and problem-solving techniques.

Q: I’ve used behaviour charts and reward systems for years. Will this course be relevant?
A: Yes! The course offers a fresh perspective on behaviour support that goes beyond traditional reward and punishment systems. You’ll gain new insights into the “why” behind behaviours and develop more effective, developmentally appropriate strategies.A: Absolutely! The course is designed for practitioners at all experience levels, providing fundamental understanding and practical strategies you can implement immediately.

Q: How quickly can I implement what I learn?
A: The strategies taught can be implemented immediately in your setting. Each section includes practical examples and clear guidance for application.

Q: What technology do I need to access the course?
A: Any device with internet access and audio capability will work—computer, tablet, or smartphone.

Q: Why is the course priced at £40?
A: We’ve purposely kept the price accessible to ensure all early years professionals can benefit from this specialist training, while maintaining high-quality content from an expert instructor.

Q: Will I receive a certificate upon completion?
A: Yes, you’ll receive a certificate for 90 minutes of professional development upon course completion. This includes the 70 minutes of video instruction plus time allocated for the reflection and implementation activities.

Q: Is there any support available if I have questions?
A: Yes, as with all our products you can contact us at any time via email or our chat feature and we’ll get back to you as soon as we can – usually within 24 hours and often much faster.

Q: Can I share the course materials with my colleagues?
A: Your course access is for individual use only. However, we offer group discounts if you’d like to enroll multiple team members. Just contact us via email or the website chat feature.

If you have any other questions, please don’t hesitate to contact us using the chat feature or email and we’ll get back to you straight away.

Equip yourself with the essential skills to understand, support, and nurture positive behaviour in young children. This focused professional development opportunity represents more than just training—it’s an investment in creating emotionally supportive environments where children can thrive.

Studies show that consistent approaches to behaviour support can reduce challenging behaviours by up to 50%.

Complete Your Professional Development Journey

For practitioners who have completed “Behaviour Detectives,” this course provides the perfect next step – translating understanding into action with practical strategies you can implement immediately. For those new to Tamsin’s approach, this standalone course offers immediate value and can be enhanced later with the analytical framework of “Behaviour Detectives.”

For just £40, you’ll gain:

• Expert-led video instruction from Tamsin Grimmer
• Practical, immediately applicable strategies
• Clear frameworks for sensitive communication
• Age-appropriate support techniques
• Professional certification for your portfolio

Don’t miss this opportunity to enhance your professional toolkit with essential skills that transform challenging moments into opportunities for growth and learning.